Sometimes Straight Talk Is What We Need It was July 2021 and I had been up late talking to a close girlfriend about all the woes of the past year – and there were many.  COVID, working as a double disaster responder with covid & local wildfires, my Mom had passed away and my life […]

Coping With Pain

May 20, 2022

‘Stop Feeling Sorry For Yourself And Go To Bed’

How to bring it home. Mindfulness is easy on vacation.  Nothing to do but wander from moment to moment, soaking in and savoring the sights, smells, sounds and tastes of the world around you.   You’ve probably heard the quote, ‘Build a life you don’t need a vacation from.’  To be honest I get the point […]

Life Satisfaction, Mindfulness

March 25, 2022

Mindfulness Is Easy On Vacation

How much time do you think you spend in life working towards some goal?  Whether it’s working towards education, career related goals, relationship goals, personal development or fitness goals, much of our focus especially in modern society seems to be about achievement. I’m not here to bash on achievement, because I think the human spirit […]

Reaching Goals

February 3, 2022

Why You Shouldn’t Strive For Consistency

I’m Going Rogue!  I’m coming out of the coaching closet, moving away from positioning myself primarily as a mental health therapist, and today I’m sharing my reasons why.   I hear you asking, ‘But Katy, Didn’t you go to school for 6 years, spend even more years gaining clinical hours, taking licensure exams, and many many […]

Life Satisfaction, Self-Trust

January 18, 2022

Why I’m Transitioning To Coaching Instead of Therapy

A New Operating System For Your Mind This month we are talking Dialectical Thinking, which I know sounds boring AF.  I’m assuming you’re here though, because you are interested in and committed to expanding your consciousness and optimizing your mental and emotional wellbeing.  If that’s the case, you’re going to love dialectical thinking. Why are […]

Reaching Goals, Relationships

January 14, 2022

Dialectical Thinking – Become An Expert Problem Solver

Do you struggle with feeling guilty for saying no to people?  Deep down you’re maxed, but as hard as you try, the words, ‘Sure, I’ll do it.’ still come out of your mouth.  I’m here to tell you that this habit of people pleasing and sacrificing your own needs, is a major roadblock to not […]


October 15, 2021

Saying ‘No’ And Why It’s Critical To Thriving

Talking Isn’t Enough – Explaining Dialectical Behavioral Therapy Have you ever gone to therapy and felt like it …. didn’t do much?  I mean, it’s nice to be ‘heard’ and receive validation on your experiences and perspectives, but then what?  I’ve had so many clients come to me feeling a little jaded with therapy, telling […]

Coping With Pain, Life Satisfaction, Reaching Goals

September 10, 2021

DBT – How To Be A Human

What Exactly Is Grief? We’ve all experienced it, whether in the loss of loved ones or more subtle life changes where we lose something less tangible.  When life roles change we may lose a sense of self, when a societal shift happens (like in 2020) we lose a sense of familiarity and normalcy.  Jobs, friendships […]

Coping With Pain

August 6, 2021

5 Tips For Moving Through Grief

If you’ve been in my circle at The Mindful Therapist for a while, you know that 2020 hit me hard – as it did so many people.  By December, I was at a cracking point and so ready to shift out of significant anxiety and depression that were related to a number of compounding stressors. […]

Life Satisfaction

June 15, 2021

Joy As An Act Of Rebellion

My biological mom got me my first car.  It was a junky black GMC Jimmy and the license plate she got for me was ‘FREEBME’.  People would ask, ‘What does Freeb Me mean?’ Growing up my Bio Mom embarrassed me.  She was colorful, spontaneous.  She had her challenges, but she was on a mission to […]


April 23, 2021

Being Visible